“What’s the secret to a happy marriage?” Many couples have their share of difficulties, but getting through them is what makes a marriage a great one. Here are some secrets from the experts. Blend them together to create your own secret sauce for marital success.
Marriage is hard. But you only fall off a bike when you stop pedaling. No matter how hard things seem, don’t stop trying and working together.
In fact, own a few of theirs if you have to! What difference does it make? You don’t have to be wrong for them to be right. Say “I’m sorry.” If you broke it, then fix it. If your partner broke it, forgive them and help fix it. Either way, fix it.
Life is too short to sweat the small stuff. Another secret to a happy marriage is to learn from your mistakes and focus on being present.
Communication is key to a happy marriage. Share your fears, doubts, hopes and dreams. Speak kindly. Be patient. Be generous. Don’t walk away. Don’t expect your partner to read your mind, because they can’t. End of story. So…where could you be more generous to your partner?
Time spent together is time well spent! Make eye contact. Pay attention. Listen intently. Multi-tasking is not a superpower. Care about what they care about. You need each other, so be there for each other. When was the last time you put down your phone, computer, or book and gave them your complete attention?
Don’t let love grow cold! For a happy marriage, keep it fresh, fun and festive. Flirt, date, tease, kiss, touch, compliment, dress up, laugh, and enjoy one another! Did you lose that lovin’ feeling? You can find it again! Ask not what your partner can do for you. Ask what you can do for them. Go see and go do! Make plans today.
What do they need right now? Keep your focus on meeting your partner’s needs, not getting your own needs met, and you’ll have a very blessed, fulfilling, happy marriage. Selfishness is for the playground, not for marriage.